[Film] Fifty Shades Of Grey - Who Is The Real Boss ?

I do love “50 shades of Grey” actually. Although I can’t see steaming hottie Jamie Dornan’s mysterious junk in the movie, I still love it. (please ignore their acting, please.)

The reason I like it is not their strange chemistry, not their as fast as light relationship and not their fake scripts. Is that it opens a window to let us step closer to those taboos and the darkest secret behind the doors.

For the record, being a spoiler is not my thing, so I only say what I want to say after watching it.

Who is the boss?
So, who dominate whom? It’s like Grey is dominant all the time, dominate on business, sex and on bed as well. As a entrepreneur, he has to be a great dominator, but as a guy in (weird) relationship,

He is dominated by Anastasia.

Yep, to me, Ana is a really dominator. Even though she is submissive on bed, but as a sex slave of Grey, she is not that submissive. And this makes Grey want her badly.

I mean, Grey get annoyed when Ana is hesitant on “Sex Contract”, especially when she doesn’t reply his message instantly (They like most common couple who really get distracted by this). What kind of dominator he is! Ana takes down him. 

Ana, to be honest, as a virgin and the women who first fall in love, she is pretty good at flirting and playing with guy.  Knowing what time should say no and stop, when should act innocently, when should be slat, and she does control Grey somehow (except on bed).

Smart girl, Ana. (This shows us that the best way to let control freak into you is that don’t let them control you.)

                             

Please & Romance
What is the difference between “Please & Romance”? Grey keep saying his point is about please not romance. So, what’s is the difference between these two words when you are in relationship? These are all about making other happy.

To me, “Please” is about getting reward and romance is about inner feeling and don’t care what get in return.

Grey sends Ana a bunch of gifts and even takes her “HIGH” in the sky, to me, this is not romance actually. A lot of women will consider it as romance, in fact, Grey only wants to please Ana and fuck her harder. That’s all. The more he gives, the more sex he wants in return.

And the good thing of Ana is that she knows when should reject and when should accept his gifts and this do make him itchy. (Nice trick, Ana)

what if the situation is not in relationship, what does “Please” mean? I think it more like “Beg”. Beg for care, for love or for attention, as Grey learned how to play piano to please his new family when he was six.

He pleased them with playing piano to get more attention (Poor Grey).

Kink is a taboo?
This film does bring BDSM to mainstream and to Hollywood as well. Moreover, it gives us to talk about BDSM in public and get dark secret bubble to the surface.

To me, the situation BDSM face is similar with LGBT ‘s. In the past, we are not allowed to talk about LGBT in public, not even mention to know what is it. As day goes by, people realize that LGBT is just another kind of human, nothing special. It’s as common as the color of human, that’s all.

So is BDSM. It’s just another kind of sex. Not a big deal, as long as it doesn’t hurt and kill people and not affect their daily life.

Just like Grey and Ana, if we don’t know their sex is such intense, they look like normal couple (Rich one).  

They can lock their secret and kink behind the door actually if they want, but, if they did so, we wouldn’t have chance to see Jamie’s nice butt!